Most parents want their children to succeed in life. Be it at their careers, their goals, ambitions, love interests, etc. However, some parents go the extra mile to make sure that their child achieves succees with all the advantages in the world.
This could be done through adopting nefarious methods, or simply by forcing the child to submit to the parents’ demands. Sometimes this is successful, but mostly, it just ends with disastrous consequences in the long term.
Sometimes, pressure creates diamonds, but usually, the result is rubble. So should you or should you not pressure kids to get good grades?
|Advantages and Disadvantages of Pressuring Kids to Get Good Grades|
|Creates a Sense of Competition||Causes Acute Mental Stress|
|Sets a Good Precedent for the future||Creates Humans Who Care Only About Material Achievements, and Not Humanity|
|Serves as Strong Motivation||Creates a False Sense of Superiority|
|Good Grades Ensure Better Schools||Kills Off Any Sign of Creativity|
|Improves Work Ethic||Good Grades Are Not Everything|
|Higher Stations/ Positions at Work||The Grading System is Ableist and Exclusionary|
|Good Grades Ensure the Respect of Your Peers|
Advantages of Pressuring Kids to Get Good Grades:
- Creates a sense of competition:
Creating a competitive as well as nurturing environment for your child ensures that they work hard to achieve their goals. Competing with one’s peers will make sure that your child will be motivated to score better than the others, and that they will not lag behind or be unfocused.
- Sets a good precedent for the future:
Make your child understand that good grades is something that they should strive to achieve. This will give them impetus to work hard, and set a hood example for their future selves where they will work to achieve their goals.
- Serves as strong motivation:
When kids get good grades, this motivates them to study harder, and focus better on what they are doing. Good grades automatically boost one’s position in the eyes of his peers and faculty, and his hard work is applauded by all. The child will try to to keep up by using the boost provided by his grades as motivation to work better.
- Good grades ensure better schools:
A child’s overall performance is boosted by good grades. When they want to apply to the college of their dreams, these grades can make or break their application. College admissions take thousands of applications, and keep an eye out for the most well rounded student, which means grades will definitely improve your child’s chances to be accepted at colleges.
- Improves work ethics:
Good grades require constant hard work. A child has to allot the maximum time he can to continue pursuing good grades. This helps develop irreproachable work ethics, and in the long run, will help your child do a good work at their jobs. Therefore, good grades improve work ethics.
- Higher stations/ positions at work:
If you help your child by studying to get good grades, they will get the boost to study in the college of their dreams. This, in turn, will ensure that after they finish studying and enter the workforce, they start out at higher work positions.
- Good grades ensure the respect of your peers:
Forcing your child to get good grades ensure that their peers respect them for their academic achievements. Good grades warrant respect, and this also acts as motivation for your child to do better to be respected amongst their classmates. .
Disadvantages of Pressuring Kids to Get Good Grades:
- Causes acute mental stress:
A child who is pressured into constantly studying to get good grades suffers from anxiety, depression, and a lot of mental stress. They are more likely to fail at their achievements in the pong run, and this toxic system of pressuring them to get good grades will lead to their downfall.
- Creates humans who care only about material achievements, and not humanity:
The pressure to get good grades forces children in a sort of trap wherein they are forced to focus on the material world. Qualities like human kindness, friendship, creating bonds, are forgone for the drive to work to suit only the self. This creates a race of selfish humans who don’t care about anything or anyone other than themselves.
- Creates a false sense of superiority:
Good grades have no further use after school. In life, people who were forced to get good grades by their parents become work horses, and their incapability to achieve much leads them to feel a sense of inferiority. Good grades create a false sense of superiority, and leads only to broken hearts and minds.
- Kills Off Any Sign of Creativity:
Grades are only marked on academic subjects. This means that creative abilities are not given little to no importance. Creative skills are vital in the long run, and help shape a child’s personality as well as career choices. Parents force children to abandon hobbies and creative skills in this race of achieving the best grades possible.
- Good Grades Are Not Everything:
Getting good grades does not automatically make someone a better person. Inculcating good habits and behaviors ensure that you have decency and basic humanity. Good grades might get you to a high point, but that can only take you so far.
- The grading system is ableist and exclusionary:
The grading system operates on the principle that all students are able bodied persons who start of equally with all the advantages in life. This is a very idealist way of grading, which excludes those who do not fall under either categories. Students who have reading disabilities, or are physically disabled, are excluded from receiving good marks, and so are students who come from dysfunctional or poverty-stricken homes, and do not have the advantages of other peers.
Good grades surely help a child to do better in school. However, it is detrimental to their health, growth and overall development if they are pressured to work as a youth sweatshop to get good grades. If you are pressuring your child to achieve good marks, first understand if that is what you want for them, or if it is some unfulfilled desire stemming from your unresolved issues.